...may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
Is anyone really ever truly immune to being bad-mouthed, being the subject of foul criticism, hurtful gossip and the like? If you're the type of person who's constantly in the public eye -- a movie star or a politician or some other type of celebrity -- then you'd have to develop a thick skin, because whether you like it or not, people are going to say less than favorable things about you.
But what if you're the type of person who's the ordinary guy or gal next door, someone who's just minding their own business, and you hear something bad that's being said about you from a friend of a friend of a friend? That can suck the big one. But my personal philosophy when it comes to this sort of issue is this: if such words or comments come from people who mean absolutely nothing to me, if their opinions do not matter to me, then they can yadda yadda until they're blue in the face. I do not give a flying fuck.
But if criticism or other "negative" comments do come from someone whose opinion I value, from someone I care deeply about and trust, then that's another story altogether. Trust is such a hard commodity to come by these days. And knowing that, I'm immeasurably grateful for the people I can talk to, people I trust, people with whom I can be myself in all my glorious craziness -- and who still love and accept me in spite of everything. Their advice and well-placed concern are deeply appreciated, more than words can ever say. One such beloved friend is MG, who celebrates her birthday today.
Words are funny things sometimes, especially in a cultural context. Salvage is one such word. According to the dictionary, it means to save something or someone from loss or destruction. But here in the Philippines, salvage is also a word commonly used for the act of ambushing and killing someone. So if you hear of someone who's a salvage victim, that is NOT good news. Oh no, not good news at all. But if I salvage someone to salvage my pride, is that a good thing? Depends on the who's, why's, and wherefore's maybe.
Eh, probably not.